Monday, January 11, 2016

Haters gon' hate

It's so true. Cause that is what people with hateful personalities do, they hate.  Sadly, that's probably the one thing they're actually good at.  I don't care if they try telling me that they are perfectly content. If you're quick to talk about ANYONE I'm automatically going to assume that you're bored and tired of your current life so you need to spice it up by bringing others down with you.


So there's something that I think needs to be addressed to those who have no knowledge of what it's like to be a mom. Specifically a stay at home mom (SAHM). You see, for whatever reason we SAHMs are so frowned upon. Why is that? Is it because our husbands, boyfriends, & partners are working and we aren't? Is it because we have the 'luxury' of staying home and being provided for while other people are working for their own money? Let me shed some light on what motherhood is like. For those who know absolutely NOTHING about what we go through on a day-to-day basis, I suggest you read this so you can somewhat educate yourself. I have always been a very independent person. I hated having to rely on my parents' money. So I started working at a young age up until I became pregnant with my boyfriend (now husband) at the time.
The past 3 years my husband has been the one to financially support us in every aspect. I have no shame in saying that. Do you know what I do every day? Probably not. I've been taking care of our child for the past 3 years. Suffering from sleep deprivation. No physical help from ANY family since we literally live on the opposite side of the country from everyone we know and love. I handle our finances. I cook, I clean, I do the grocery shopping. I run errands that help keep us on our feet. I am my husband's assistant and my daughter's educator. I have ZERO time for myself. & With all of that I'm currently selling unused items in our home to make a small profit on the side. (Even though my finances are NO ONES business)
My job isn't a 9-5 job. It's a 24/7 job. So before people think I do nothing and basically get showered with gifts from my husband, think again. I am the CEO, the CFO, COO of my family.
Do I wish I could go back to work or school? Sure! Cause then I'd finally have a break. Although nothing will ever compare to the work I've put in here at home.
I am so fortunate to have the opportunity to raise my daughter in the first few years of her life. I might not be getting paychecks every other week for working here at home. But I'm making memories with my kid and no amount of money will ever compare to that.
So before people open up their ignorant mouths, I want them to understand how hard it is to be a stay at home parent. Cause when you talk about me, you're talking about my family. My mother, my sisters, my brother, my aunts,  my mother-in law, my sister-in law, and majority of the female population who are mothers, including women in your own family. 
Yes, most of us rely on our partners since they're the current bread winners of our families. But at least THEY can go to work with a peace of mind knowing that their children are in better hands than if they're with strangers. 
Don't get me wrong. I praise ALL moms! Even working ones. The sacrifices we make for our children are all so worth it.

So to the people who only know how to spread their negativity, I hope that one day when you have a child of your own, you will have the opportunity to understand and experience what raw parenthood is like. & I only hope you will reflect on all the terrible things you say about us SAHMs and have a change of heart.


I have received so much love and feedback from so many mothers in this group. If you're a mom yourself, I highly recommend joining "FIRST TIME MOMMY GROUP" on facebook.  It's a community with thousands of other moms from different backgrounds who won't hesitate to share their knowledge on motherhood with you. You can ask the most personal questions and won't feel the least bit judged. 

Here are a few of the wonderful comments I received on this subject from over 100 different mothers who work AND stay at home.

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